This post is the fourth post in a series on understanding “same-sex-attraction.” The three previous posts were:
One very complex concept that I have discussed is the idea of “attraction.” Defining and understanding the idea of attraction can be very difficult. What does it mean for a person to be “attracted” to another? What does this attraction consist of? What are its limits? By now, it should be obvious that when I use the words “same-sex-attraction,” I am using them somewhat differently from how most people use them. Most people use the words “same-sex-attraction” as the Catholic Church defines homosexuality, “relations between men or between women who experience an exclusive or predominant sexual attraction toward persons of the same sex.” In particular, they understand same-sex-attraction as a desire for sexual pleasure with or from someone of the same sex. For these people, same-sex-attraction may also be called same-sex-lust. If this is the proper understanding of same-sex-attraction, then same-sex-attraction is intrinsically disordered.
As I alluded to in my first post, however, I believe that “LGBTQ” language, “homosexuality” language, and “same-sex-attraction” language should be distinguished from each other. “LGBTQ” language can help to denote certain kinds of people. “Homosexuality” language discusses disordered desires towards disordered acts. I would like to use same-sex-attraction in a much broader sense…
The rest of this post can be found in my book, “I Desired You: An Intellectual Journal on Faith and Sexuality.” You can order a copy here.